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Are you struggling to connect with something greater? For many, the desire to feel deeply connected to the source—a higher realm, an inner peace—is ever-present. Yet, this connection often feels just out of reach, clouded by a feeling of disconnection or lack. But what if the obstacle isn’t outside of us, but something within: our need for control?
In my healing sessions, clients often share a longing to feel in touch with the “world above.” Yet, few realize that our most essential connection begins right here on Earth. Just as a tree cannot grow tall without strong roots, we cannot fully reach the spiritual without first being grounded. Grounding meditation, such as the one I shared in my blog Guided Meditation for Grounding: Connect with Your Muladhara Chakra, is a powerful first step for anyone seeking that connection. Only after grounding ourselves can we safely open to higher realms. Healing by letting go of control often begins with grounding, as it anchors us, releasing the need to manage everything and instead connects us more deeply with ourselves and our surroundings.
While it’s possible to connect with higher realms without being grounded, this isn’t healthy. We may be led in directions or open ourselves up to energies that don’t serve us well. Imagine yourself as a tree: have you ever seen a tree standing upright, strong, and indestructible against wind, rain, and storm without good, strong roots? No, you haven’t. Just as a tree needs strong roots to grow bigger and stronger, so do we. We must be grounded to properly and securely open ourselves to the source and experience healing by letting go of control.
Control vs. Spirituality: A Delicate Balance
The struggle between “connecting up there” versus “grounding down here” often stems from fear, which pushes us toward control. Control and spirituality exist on opposite ends of a spectrum: control is tied to earthly attachments and ego, while spirituality aligns with intuition and freedom.
In many ways, control can feel comforting. But as we hold onto it, we lose the very connection we’re seeking. It’s a paradox—clinging tightly to control often leads to losing it altogether, manifesting as emotional distress, health issues, or a sense of inner chaos. The path to healing by letting go of control means understanding that true spiritual growth and inner peace often come from loosening our grip on what we cannot control.
When we pass from this life, we leave our material attachments behind. So, why cling to them now? And why control things beyond ourselves? The answer often lies in fear—a fear that loosening our grip will leave us vulnerable. But the opposite is true: letting go can be liberating, providing inner control, peace, and ultimately a more fulfilling life.
The Link Between Control and Well-being
Control issues frequently surface in surprising ways, particularly in physical health. I work with many clients who struggle with weight management despite healthy habits. They exercise, eat mindfully, and yet find themselves unable to reach their goals. Beneath the surface, however, there’s often a need for control in external situations, whether in relationships, work, or daily routines. Healing by letting go of control involves recognizing these tendencies and learning to release them.
One client, for example, had a blockage in her pituitary gland affecting her metabolism. Though she initially denied having control issues, she later realized how much she managed her children’s behaviors to avoid inconvenience, even with small things like tidying up after them. When she let go of these habits, she experienced a breakthrough: for the first time in years, she was losing weight. She had tried countless retreats and wellness programs, but the change came only after she released the need for control.
In another instance, I observed a client who prided herself on being easy-going, yet subtly controlled her partner’s meal choices. This couple had been together for over 50 years, bound by a deep commitment to one another. Although she wasn’t inclined to make significant changes, she started making small adjustments after our discussions. She began grounding herself to work on the fear issues she was experiencing, but making larger changes—such as letting go of control—proved challenging. This difficulty stemmed from a lack of space to accept an unpleasant habit within herself. After each session, she felt better and experienced an uplifted state, yet within a day or two, her old feelings would resurface. For true healing by letting go of control, one essential step is to accept the discomforts that are present within us.
Transform Your Path by Grounding and Letting Go
Control issues can impact us deeply—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Addressing this requires grounding ourselves and letting go of habits that no longer serve us. By starting with grounding meditation, we lay the foundation for security and resilience, lessening fear and reducing the need for external control. For many, healing by letting go of control also brings a new sense of freedom and an ability to connect more deeply with both the self and the source.
Starting small can lead to big shifts. Ground yourself, release the grip of control, and open the door to a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you. Begin your healing journey today, and let go to truly grow.
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